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  • Centre for Healthy Autonomy 5 Commerce Road, Brentford Lock, London TW8 8LE (map)
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“Love... what is it, and what is 'healthy' love? Am I capable of loving? How do we know we can love? Can we receive love? What is 'falling in love? How can we understand this primary and primal emotion?

Love infuses our lives and our experiences as much as food and sleep... it is a basic need, and yet for many of us it is also extremely troublesome. We may 'love' inappropriately, be constantly attracted to people who we know are not good for us, continually get ourselves into sticky 'loving' situations, and... also... know that in some way we are constantly looking for a love that we didn't get at the beginning of our lives.

And sex... what is that, and, again, what is 'healthy' sex? Of course we know that sex is about procreation, having babies, perpetuating the species, but our lives seem to be dominated by sex and our sexuality and, for some, our gender. We seem to be a society obsessed with sex and sexuality: getting sex, managing our sexual desires, suffering because of sex... feeling inadequate and finding that often our sexual encounters are not satisfying but confusing.

Do I define myself as hetero, gay, bi, trans? What do these 'categories' mean to me? Most of our advertising uses sex to sell us things... Sex as a commodity. How do we feel about that? And... what is the relationship between love and sex?... Are we naturally monogomous, i.e willing to commit to only having sex with one partner for the rest of our lives? And many more questions arise.

And then the subject of Relationship... are my relationships healthy or painful, loving or torturing, satisfying or a constant source of confusion, despair and hopelessness.”

Vivian Broughton

These are big topics, and our ability to function well in relation to these issues in Vivian’s view goes right back to the issue of traumatisation, and our experiences of our first relationship... that with our mother and then our father. It is from this earliest time in our life that we gain a sense of our identity, and the identity that is possible from this time then defines our relationship with these issues. Our biography is a biography of the influence of trauma. 

What to expect?

This workshop is intended to open up these topics and find some kind of clarity. You will work with the Intention Method as a means of personal exploration of some of these issues, and there will be time for discussion and sharing. 

There are 8 guaranteed working places on these workshops, and if there is time after that there will be a ballot for further opportunities to do a personal exploration. If participants take up this opportunity they will be required to pay the extra £80. 

Please be aware that these workshops may involve emotional experiences as the underlying topic is the exploration of personal trauma.

If you are new to this work you might like to read some of the posts on Vivian’s blog, a good starting book is Becoming Your True Self which she wrote for her clients.

You can find out more information about Vivian here.

Date: Saturday 6th October at 09:30am - Sunday 7th October 5.30pm

Location: Centre for Healthy Autonomy, 5 Commerce Road, Brentford Lock, London, TW8 8LE

Investment: £115 for attendant place / £195 for a working place (guarantees that you will be able to make a personal exploration using the Intention Method)

Please note, this event is not organised by The Merit Club

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